From IWU Magazine, Winter 2009-10
Story by NICOLE TRAVIS '11
As if wanting to join in the celebration, the sun broke through the clouds on a brisk
Sunday morning in October as alumni and their families streamed into Illinois Wesleyan’s
Evelyn Chapel. Every year, an all-campus chapel service concludes the University’s
Homecoming festivities. But what was about to happen at this year’s service was far
from routine, as IWU Chaplain Hope Luckie asked the many married alumni couples present
to rise and renew a solemn vow.
This was “Met and Married,” a first-ever Homecoming event in which Illinois Wesleyan
alumni couples were invited to return to campus, renew their wedding vows and share
According to Director of Alumni Relations Ann Harding, 3,200 of Illinois Wesleyan’s
20,000 alumni are married to another alumnus. These 1,600 couples comprise 15 percent
of the total alumni population.
“We thought that celebrating this, plus the 25th anniversary of Evelyn Chapel, would
be a wonderful thing to do at Homecoming this year,” says Harding.
Harding admits that she observed the ceremony through tear-filled eyes, and she wasn’t
alone. As dozens of couples from different faiths, backgrounds and generations declared
again “to have and to hold from this day forward,” the chapel felt charged with emotion
— and a strong sense of dj vu for the many of those couples who had also chosen Evelyn
as the place for their first marriage.
For Robb and Sarah McCoy, the biggest change from their first wedding in Evelyn Chapel
was the presence of their 3-year-old daughter. The collage at right shows photos of
alumni couples who met at Illinois Wesleyan.
One of those couples was Robb ’99 and Sarah (Sechrest) McCoy ’01, who first met at
a Theta Chi spring rush party and married in Evelyn Chapel on Oct. 20, 2001. At the
“Met and Married” ceremony — held just days before their eighth anniversary — Robb
and Sarah recited similar vows, but with an entirely new set of feelings attached
to the words.
“When we first shared those vows, they were said as a promise,” says Robb. “We knew
we loved each other, and we knew we wanted to be together, but I don’t think we had
any idea what marriage was really about.”
Sarah agrees. “Through eight years we have had a lot ‘for better,’ but we know what
‘for worse’ feels like,” she says. “When we looked at each other during the [“Met
and Married”] ceremony and said ‘for richer or for poorer,’ we knew what it meant
to be waiting eagerly for another paycheck. When we said ‘in sickness and in health,’
we knew what the other looked like after a few days of the flu.”
Another obvious difference between the two Evelyn Chapel ceremonies was the presence
of their daughter, 3-year-old Elizabeth Belle.
“Being able to hold her while we repeated our vows made it very special,” Sarah says.
“In a way, she is the culmination of the promises we made that day.” After repeating
Luckie’s recitation of the vows, when many of the other couples in the chapel were
reliving their first kiss
as man and wife, the McCoys shared a family kiss.
The moment, according to Sarah, was “absolutely perfect.”
There was one detail that daughter Elizabeth, at least, considered less than ideal.
“On our way to the chapel, we told her that we were going to get married again,” Sarah
explains. “When she saw that Mommy was wearing pants and a sweater, she was mortified.
She said, ‘Wait! Mommy can’t wear that. She needs her princess dress.’”
. . .
Phyllis (Smith) Short ’47 stood in Evelyn Chapel facing her husband Lee ’44, holding
his hands in hers. They weren’t standing at the altar, and she wasn’t dressed in an
elegant bridal gown. Missing were the bouquet, the bridesmaids and the veil. But the
vows she exchanged with her husband took on a far more special meaning than they had
62 years ago at their original wedding ceremony in Ransom, Ill.
“I felt grateful that we were still together and in that place,” Phyllis says. “It
was really a beautiful and very meaningful ceremony.”
“The kiss was different,” Lee adds with a laugh.
With 62 years — and the births of four daughters, eight grandchildren and one great-grandson
— between their wedding ceremony and their vow renewal, the Shorts found that many
of the similarities between the two ceremonies had actually become differences. When
it came to exchanging vows for the second time, Phyllis noticed that sharing more
than 60 years of life’s triumphs and struggles with one man had changed her mindset.
“You’re more realistic. It’s just maturity,” she reflects, saying that when a marriage
first begins, “you have all of these high expectations, and some of them come true
and some don’t.”
When she first exchanged those vows with Lee in 1947, Phyllis, like many brides, found
it difficult to concentrate on their meaning. “You’re thinking about details, wondering
if everything is going all right, if somebody forgot something. The day of the ceremony
I can’t say that I can remember anything special. It was just about concentrating
on getting through it.”
While their wedding day remains a blur for both of the Shorts, returning to campus
brought to mind several memories of their courtship. Lee began studying at Illinois
Wesleyan in 1939, but when World War II broke out two years later, he joined the service.
In 1946 he returned to campus, where one of his friends convinced him to become a
houseboy for Delta Omicron, where Phyllis lived.
Several generations of alumni couples exchanged vows during a special Homecoming ceremony
held in October. (Photo by Marc Featherly)
“I had the pick of about 20 girls. I don’t think she chose me,” Lee admits with a
One of Lee’s friends was dating Phyllis’ best friend, who also lived at Delta Omicron.
“He always wanted to fix me up with Phyllis so we could double date and they could
use the back seat of my car,” Lee recalls.
Lee and Phyllis’ first date ended up being a double date with their two friends. After
driving through a blizzard to the Delta Omicron house that night, Lee’s friend picked
up his date and carried her through a high snowdrift into the house. “He was a tall
guy, about six-feet, four-inches and she was about five-one. Phyllis weighed as much
as I did. I was struggling, but I got her in there,” Lee says. “That was our first
date, so we didn’t do much smooching.” Lee and Phyllis married in 1947, and Illinois
Wesleyan remained a part of their daily lives during the 29 years Lee worked as IWU’s
dean of admissions.
Through the “Met and Married” ceremony, Lee was also able to reunite with his old
friend and Phi Mu Alpha brother Roger Miller ’49, who had also been his best man.
School of Music alumna Arlene (Truscott) Miller called her wedding to Roger in March
1949 — during their senior years — an arrangement of “logistics.” Arlene transferred
to Illinois Wesleyan during her junior year while her parents were serving as missionaries
in South America.
“He gave me his pin in ’47 and we were engaged all that time before we were married,”
The couple decided to plan their wedding before graduation to ensure that Arlene would
have somewhere to live after completing school.
“It was wonderful,” Arlene recalled. “You see, it was rather romantic. In 1948 and
’49 there were still barracks on campus, and it looked romantic, with all the young
couples and the babies. It was so neat, so we thought it would be fun to be married.”
With the approval of her parents, Arlene began preparing for the wedding on her own,
bringing a dress to a local seamstress and accepting her parents’ offer to bring the
couple a wedding cake from Argentina. After learning that these details were the extent
of Arlene’s plans, her parents arranged a reception for their daughter and the fianc
they had never met. Her mother baked the cake in Argentina, carried it on her lap
during their plane ride to the States, and her father decorated it upon arriving in
“It was, ‘Who gives this girl away?’ ‘I do,’ and then he went behind the railing and
he married us,” Arlene says. After 60 years of marriage, the Millers now have four
children, nine grandchildren and eight great-grandchildren.
The secret of a long and happy marriage, according to Lee Short, is simply “trust
“And friendship,” adds Phyllis Short. “I can tell him anything, and we have all these
common interests, mainly interest in our family. He’s my best friend.”
Click here to read a related story on Evelyn Chapel's 25th anniversary.